Step 5
We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
What it means
Saying it out loud to a real person is what takes the charge out. Shame does not survive being witnessed.
How abandonment distorts it
Telling someone the truth feels like handing them a reason to leave.
In this marriage
The person who hears this does not have to be my wife, and in this season it usually should not be.
Inside me
I have no inner voice to say this to. That is exactly why it must be said ALOUD, to a person, in a room.
Do not do this for 0 minutes
- Do not use Step Five as a confession to your wife aimed at getting reassurance. That is reassurance-seeking with a program label on it.
Behavioral exercise
- Book the conversation with a sponsor or trusted person. Put it in the calendar before you feel ready.