Step 6
We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
What it means
Readiness, not performance. Noticing that the pursuing and the monitoring have been protecting me, and being willing to put them down anyway.
How abandonment distorts it
These patterns kept a frightened kid alive. Letting go of them feels like removing armor in a place that once was genuinely dangerous.
In this marriage
Being ready to stop managing her is not the same as being ready to stop caring about her.
Inside me
Willingness is a feeling I can act ahead of. I do not have to feel ready to behave ready.
Do not do this for 0 minutes
- Readiness is not self-attack. Do not turn this step into a list of everything wrong with you.
Behavioral exercise
- Pick ONE behavior. Set it down for 24 hours. Note what happened in your body.